Love
The varieties of Love
Attachment Theory of Love
Adult patterns can be found in childhood styles.
Support for Ainsworth's secure, avoidant, ambivalent.
    - Hostility in relationships more likely to be insecure and
    defensive showing anxious ambivalent as child.
    Revolving door of Love and Abuse

Passionate vs. Compassionate Love
Passionate or Romantic Love is seen as intense, unstable, fragile, highly sexualized. New Love.

Compassionate love is seen as deep affection and trust; generally calmer and more stable.

John Alan Lee's six styles of Love:
(see handout)
ludus - game playing
eros - romatic
storge - affectionate
mania - possessive
pragma - pragmatic
agape - unselfish
   others? spiritual love?

Triangle of Love: The three bases to love
Passion
Intimacy
Commitment

Gender Culture and love
Gender roles vary greatly across cultures, including their expressions of love. What do you think?
Do you feel like I feel?

In North America
Women tend to express love more in words while men in actions. Not always understanding each other.